Here’s to 30 and 2024!
30 life-changing lessons I’ve learned by age 30.
A few days ago I turned 30 and also watched the clock roll over to 2024. What a year it’s going to be! I used to be one of those that thought 30 meant ‘officially old’! But who’s counting? haha. To be honest…I feel like I’m JUST NOW realizing what life is all about and being able to really enjoy it.
It’s been this last year of being 29 that I’ve grown the most as a woman. On a personal level, in my career, my relationships, my family etc. I’ve become more of who I want to be and couldn’t be more excited to be 30! Here’s to another year.
30 life-changing lessons I’ve learned by age 30.
1. Don’t allow a moment in the day to ruin your entire day. Gosh I use to do this ALL the time. I was so immature and would allow the smallest things make me upset and ruin my day. Having this mindset can lead to ruining your entire life. Level Up.
2. It can be normal to love your job/career.
3. Make it a habit to feel good– if the gym makes you feel good, go. If eating better 80% of the time makes you feel good, do that. If going outside to read makes you feel good, do that. Whatever it is that makes you feel good, make it a habit.
4. Learn to apologize when you are wrong– doing this allows you communicate effectively in relationships and only leads to stronger bonds between one another.
5. Trust your intuition, trust your gut. I swear it’s 99% right. Especially for women. If something feels off, it is. You’re not crazy. I’ve learned this the hard way over the years, always wanting to believe what seemed ‘right’. Sometimes what you think is right for you, isn’t. Even if it’s hard. Give it up or let it go.
6. Be your dang self! Ughhhh haha. We were not brought into this world to be in a competition. If some one doesn’t like your vibe, your energy, your person, that’s okay. If that’s who you are then you are not meant for them. That’s OKAY. You are meant for some people that love the person you are, the energy you bring and the vibe around you. Realizing that you are not meant for everyone will save you future anxiety, I promise. haha.
7. Become the person you would look up to.
8. It’s okay to choose an unfamiliar path. You don’t have to do what everyone else is doing. You have to choose a path that makes you happy.
9. Make purchases with better intentions. Especially clothing. Think about how it’s going to be worn and where and how many times can you wear it. Can you wear it a couple times every year for the next 10 years? I’ve started buying my wardrobe with more intention which leads to less anxiety around what to wear to work, going out, vacation etc. haha. I know I’m not the only one who has had this problem!
10. If you want to be surrounded by a great work culture, you have to BE the culture.
11. Your first choice may not always be the right one- be ready to adapt. Major life decisions you make may not always be where you’ll end up. And that’s OKAY. Don’t beat yourself up for not knowing or having the desire to go a different direction.
12. Wear clothes that actually fit you. They look better.
13. Don’t allow grief to cripple you forever. Grief can be such an unbearable feeling so much so you feel paralyzed, maybe even zombie like. You have to be able to heal through the trauma, through the pain and pick yourself up to live this 1 beautiful life we’ve been given.
14. Happiness really does come from within: you are the one that must fill the void inside of you. You can’t allow so much dependence on someone else to do that for you.
15. Positive Lens or Negative lens? The way you view every single thing in your life is totally up to you. Whether you’re the positive person or the negative- your choice to make. I will say..BOTH of these lenses impact your life entirely. Choose wisely.
16. Wear spf sooner and find skincare that suits your skin!
17. Embrace your natural hair! Gosh if I had only embraced my natural hair earlier in life, I would have much thicker, healthier hair. lol I have super curly hair so I’ve always hated the way it looked. Just embrace it.
18. Do NOT rush your life away. I could talk all day about this.
19. You ARE the average of the 5 people you surround yourself with. This is one of the truest things i’ve learned more recently. If you want be successful surround yourself with successful people. If you don’t like crap gossip, stop surrounding yourself with it. If you want to be a girl boss, surround yourself with girl bosses. Surround yourself with people who inspire you to do better and be better.
20. Be where your feet are: time is non refundable.
21. You deserve to be someone’s only choice.
22. It’s okay to change your mind. You may have many passions in this life. Allow those to take you where your heart desires. You are not required to stay in one place forever.
23. Listen, then respond. As humans, we listen to someone- maybe a story they’re telling and immediately try to connect to them by telling them how we’ve been through something similar. It’s okay to sit and listen to them whole heartedly, ask questions and just allow them to talk.
24. When people impact you positively, thank them. Why do we always react so abruptly when someone impacts us in a negative way but saying Thank You for being positively impacted seems like a task?
25. Have a desire to learn and learn from everyone in the room. I love this because at work, we have team members in different age groups and I feel like I can learn from every single person in that room. No matter if they just graduated school or if they’re approaching retirement I can learn something great from any of them.
26. Girl, if you want something, you gotta work for it.
27. It’s never too late to do anything in life unless you’re telling yourself that. I thought I had life figured out at age 18, knew exactly where I was headed and what I was going to be. Thankfully, life changed and I’m NO WHERE I thought I would be, but I’m much happier that way. My 10 year vision is still different than it is today and I love that. You’re not too late unless you believe you are.
28. When someone loves you they won’t try to change you. I believe this. However, I also believe in order to make a relationship last you may HAVE to change or even want to change things that are unhealthy habits that you carry from previous relationships, childhood trauma etc. Be open to at least figuring out how to navigate relationships in a mature way. π
29. Start showing up as who you want to be: especially when it comes to your career. For example- if you want to be a CEO one day- start showing up as one. You can’t show up late, not groomed well, take long lunches and want the most vacation as a CEO.
30. Clap for Others: If you’re not clapping for others, you may find your inner self struggling with fear, anxiety, insecurities, jealously etc. It makes you feel good to clap for others and truly be happy for what they have and what they’re doing even if the season you’re in isn’t for you. π
Here’s to 30 and 2024!
