Happy Thursday Ladies! Excited to chat with you a little bit about feedback- why it matters and why I think it’s so important to growing in your career! Learning how to ask for feedback at first can feel intimidating, especially when the outcome doesn’t go your way. But whether you’re looking to grow in your current role or learn from a recent interview, seeking feedback is one of the smartest career moves you can make.
Showing that you know how to ask for feedback can show self-awareness, professionalism, and a genuine desire to improve qualities that stand out to both employers and leaders. Here’s how to ask for feedback the right way (and what to say if you’ve just been turned down for a job).
Why Asking for Feedback Matters
Most professionals shy away from asking for feedback because they don’t want to appear unsure or vulnerable. But in reality, the people who actively ask how they can improve tend to grow faster, build better relationships, and create more opportunities for themselves. Harvard talks about about feedback helps here!
When you request feedback thoughtfully, it shows confidence and maturity. You’re signaling:
- “I care about growth.”
- “I want to understand how I can be better.”
- “I value your perspective.”
Even small insights can spark major improvements, whether that’s refining your communication style, sharpening your leadership skills, or understanding how you come across in interviews. Read more about how to grow in confidence here!
How to Ask for Feedback Professionally
If you’re currently in a role, the best time to ask for feedback is before you need it- not just during an annual review. A proactive approach builds trust and helps your manager see you as someone invested in growth.
Here’s how to frame it:
Example email or conversation:
“I wanted to share a few of the projects I’ve been working on and some areas where I feel I’ve grown recently. I’d really value your perspective -are there areas where you think I could continue to strengthen or add more value? I always appreciate insight on how I can keep improving and contributing at a higher level.”
Tips:
- Be clear about what kind of feedback you’re looking for- performance, communication, leadership, etc.
- Keep your tone open, not defensive. This is more for you than it is anyone else! You can not grow without feedback.
- Thank the person afterward and share how you plan to apply their advice.
How to Ask for Feedback After a Job Rejection
Getting rejected after an interview is tough, but it’s also one of the best learning opportunities in your career. If handled gracefully, asking for feedback can leave a lasting positive impression (and even open doors for future roles).
Here’s how to do it the right way:
1. Wait a day or two.
Give the hiring team a little space before following up.
2. Keep your email short and professional.
Example:
Hi [Hiring Manager’s Name],
Thank you for letting me know about your decision. While I’m disappointed to hear I wasn’t selected, I truly appreciated the opportunity to interview and learn more about the team. If you have a moment, I’d love any feedback you could share on my interview or experience- I’m always looking for ways to grow professionally.
Thank you again for your time and consideration,
[Your Name]
3. Don’t expect a response- but be gracious if you get one.
Not all companies are able to provide feedback, but when they do, it can be incredibly valuable.
4. Reflect and take notes.
Write down what you learn, identify patterns, and look for areas where you can improve before your next opportunity.
What to Do With the Feedback You Receive
Feedback is only valuable if you act on it. Here’s how to make sure it translates into real growth:
- Pause before reacting. Take a moment to process it without defensiveness. You have to be willing to hear opinions and improve on things for your team.
- Look for themes. If multiple people mention the same thing, it’s probably worth addressing.
- Create a simple action plan. Choose one or two things to improve- don’t overwhelm yourself.
- Circle back later. If it’s a manager, show progress over time. It demonstrates accountability and growth.
How Impact Players Can Help You Grow in Your Career
If you’re serious about standing out in your career, Impact Players by Liz Wiseman is a must-read. This book breaks down what separates top performers from the rest and it’s not just about working harder. It’s about thinking differently.
Wiseman explains how true “impact players” go beyond their job descriptions. They adapt, take initiative, and make things happen — even in uncertain or fast-changing environments. For corporate women, this mindset is a game changer. It helps you shift from just doing your job to becoming someone who drives value and creates opportunity.
By learning to think like an Impact Player, you’ll not only gain confidence in your role but also build the kind of reputation that leads to promotions, leadership opportunities, and long-term career growth.
Final Thoughts: Feedback Is a Career Superpower
Learning how to ask for feedback and actually using it- is what separates good professionals from great ones. It’s how you build confidence, accelerate your growth, and earn trust in every role or relationship.
Whether it’s after a project, a performance review, or even a job rejection, thoughtful feedback can be the key that helps you take your career to the next level! Go get it girl!
